Today I want to dedicate a post to my fellas. I have to admit, because I’m a girl my posts can seem a little biased towards females, so I want to focus on my male readers. I know a lot of times guys don’t get a lot of attention when the conversation is about confidence or self-worth.
First let me just say this, SELF-ESTEEM and EGO are two separate things. Self-esteem is more so a reflection of how much you think you are worth. Having a high self-esteem is great because it can lead you to reach your best YOU (your fullest potential). Ego, on the other hand, is a tricky word to define because it can easily be mistaken for self-esteem. Ego is about how the world views you. It can be seeing yourself through the eyes of others, or even perceiving how you want the world to view you. The difference between the two is that self-esteem doesn’t need validation, it speaks for itself. In today’s society, guys are encouraged to live by their ego and to fake their confidence. The world sort of acknowledges how important building a girl’s self-esteem is, but what about guys?
I know how important my close friends are to me when it comes to encouraging me and boosting each other up (I wouldn’t have this blog if I didn’t), but is it the same for guys? I’m not talking about complimenting your dude’s sneakers or fresh haircut, I’m talking about actually supporting your homie’s goals and dreams, motivating him to strive to do better? Do your friends do the same for you? I think having uplifting friends in your life can definitely affect your self-esteem, and I’m not referring to “yes men”. Surrounding yourself with negative Nellies can definitely have a negative impact on you if they’re always critiquing you, never pointing out your good qualities or accomplishments. However, their support is the second most important to self-esteem.
Be YOU, Do YOU
Another major part of the male inner-kanye is being original. It’s very easy to follow the crowd and just do what everyone else is doing. However, what makes you stand out is when you’re doing your own thing. Your own thing doesn’t have to be so outrageously different than everyone else, but it has to have a reflection of you. This applies to more than just style/appearance. No one has your face, voice, or a walk like you. Own it! Whether its wearing blazers or funky socks, majoring in something not many guys do in school (teaching or nursing because they’re considered “feminine”), listening to music you like even though it’s not popular, reading books that many don’t, being busy with work & not being available all the time to hang with the guys, and also not going to places or doing things your friends do that aren’t your scene or forte. You get more respect when you set your boundaries and aren’t willing to compromise that for anyone. I think one of the reasons Kanye West is such a inspiring person is because he does and says what he wants to, when he wants to, how he wants to without any hesitation, no matter how crazy he may seem. It’s okay to go against the grain, even if you’re doing it alone. Why follow when you can lead?
Lastly I just want to say this, guys WE APPRECIATE YOU. You guys are the brothers that look out for us and protect us when we need you. You all are the fathers that make sure there’s a strong foundation to support your families. You kill bugs for us when we “don’t want to”, you fix things for us if we don’t know how. I know there’s a lot of pressure that comes with being a guy, but just know your patience and efforts are appreciated. Guys be brave, embrace your uniqueness, and most importantly, be gentlemen.
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